With everything that is going on in the world right now, you would be hard pressed to find a couple that isn’t having a few arguments here and there. And although there are health benefits that come along with being in a relationship, many couples know when a few simple arguments are leading to much more. Making excuses is what got them there in the first place. Counseling is not always the last resort, and it’s not always an end to the relationship. Recognizing signs well in advance can curb relationship pit falls. It is also true that it is not easy to impartially judge a situation in which you are involved.
Every time you have a difference in opinions, the result is a huge fracas. The real reason for the argument is lost. At the end of it, you feel emotionally drained. Such meltdowns hamper normal routine and functioning. They are not healthy and create huge stress levels that creep into all sections of life, including work.
Think back to conversations you have with your significant other during down time. Are they always about bills or guests you will have to entertain? It is quite common to have no time to talk. Examine the things about which you do talk. Couples should see a red flag when all conversations are addressed with a simple grunt or a one word answer.
The chance of two individuals getting along is much tougher today because couples marry later and already have set behavioral patterns. A couples therapist is only a mediator; the couple’s motivation will determine the result.